Your Body Is Keeping Secrets And It’s Making You Sick

By Melissa Moon, ELAN Healing Facilitator

We all know what physical stress feels like with those tight shoulders, a stiff neck, or an aching back. But what about emotional stress? Where does it go when it’s not expressed?

Science, and our own experience, tells us that emotions are not just “in our heads.” They live in our bodies. When we feel anxious, we might get butterflies in our stomach. When embarrassed, our cheeks flush. When excited, we may feel a full-body buzz. A landmark 2014 study found that people across cultures experience emotions in consistent physical patterns. The mind-body connection is not only real…it’s totally biological.

But what happens when emotional stress doesn’t move through us? It gets stored. Over time, it creates chronic tension, discomfort, and even illness. Here are four of the most common areas where emotional stress accumulates in the body and some insight as to why.

1. The Jaw: Tension in the jaw is often a sign of unexpressed emotion or chronic stress. Many people clench their jaws at night or suffer from temporomandibular joint (TMJ) dysfunction. If you've ever "bit your tongue" to avoid conflict or felt unable to speak your truth, you’ve likely felt it in your jaw, neck, or throat. This area becomes a pressure point for the unsaid and the suppressed.

2. The Diaphragm: Our breath is one of the first places emotional stress shows up. When emotions are suppressed, the diaphragm contracts and tightens, leading to shallow breathing. Over time, this limits oxygen flow and disrupts the nervous system. A tight belly also affects digestion and the body’s ability to absorb nutrients…even the healthiest food can’t nourish a tense system.

3. The Psoas Muscle: Often called the “fight or flight” muscle, the Psoas connects the spine to the legs and is a key player in the startle response. When we’re chronically on edge or anxious, this muscle remains contracted. The result? Persistent lower back and hip pain. Think of it as the seat of unresolved emotion and our body's way of staying ready to run, even when there’s no danger.

4. The Pelvic Floor and Womb: For women, the pelvic region is a powerful emotional center. It's tied to creation, boundaries, and embodied identity. From an early age, girls are taught to control their posture, appearance, and expression. Add in menstrual cycles, childbirth, trauma, and cultural conditioning, and it’s no wonder this area becomes a storehouse for emotional tension.

So, what can be done?

Relieving stored emotional stress isn’t just about stretching or relaxing. It's about rewiring. When we begin to regulate the nervous system and create new patterns, we restore not only physical function but emotional freedom.

You can write a new story for your body. When you're constantly bracing, holding, and tightening, you may feel chronically exhausted or vaguely “unwell.” But when you learn to recognize and release these patterns, you gain access to more ease, grace, and flow…not just in your body, but in your life.

The shape, tone, and tension of your body reflect the shape, tone, and tension of your life.

So if something inside you is saying, “It’s time,” listen to it. Find a trusted healing facilitator, someone skilled in nervous system regulation and somatic healing who can help you shift from surviving to thriving.

Because your body isn't just where you live…it's how you live.